Chris Bundas –
I’m a 27 year old young man, approaching the big ‘3-0’. I’m not gonna lie, I’m scared $#!tless. It seems like most of my 20s went by in a blur, most likely because I was often in a hazy daze. I played in a pretty successful indie rock band, was blessed to get the opportunity to travel all around North America, working with award winning producers like David Bendeth and sharing the stage with bands like The Sheepdogs, Monster Truck and My Darkest Days. I drank a lot, smoked a lot, partied with women, you know… that whole ‘sex, drugs & rock n roll’ cliche, yea, that was totally me. I had a blast! Enjoyed every minute of it! But man, it went by so fast.
So here I am: after the whole band thing, I started working here at Q107, while producing artists and writing music on the side. Maybe it’s not being in the band anymore, or maybe it’s just the fact that I’m almost 30 and need to grow the f^*# up, but a lot has changed since those rockin’ hazy day.
It seems like every year, writers for men’s magazines come out with articles and lists about behaviours that men beyond a certain age should not be doing anymore. Sometimes these opinions are ‘tongue-in-cheek’ to say the least… but there’s always a hidden grain of truth lying somewhere in their pretentious jargon.
When you’re in your 20s — and I would know — there’s a lot of stupid $#*t you do that society will turn a blind eye to. People say, ‘He’s young, and stupid… it’s ok, he’ll grow out of it,’ with the honest hope that you actually do! It’s expected that as you age you start to improve. You start school, get a part time job, go to college, find a career, get married, become a parent etc. All the while, learning something new each day to better yourself as a person.
30 is a big milestone, and as I come upon it, I’ve really been thinking about all I’ve accomplished, where I want to be and who it is I want to be. 30 is also that age when other people are going to start wondering what the hell it is you’re doing with your life…
Some behaviors come with a time limit, either because they’re dangerous or simply, embarrassing…
With that in mind, here’s my list of the ‘Top 10 Behaviors Guys Need To Quit Before They Hit 30’
Wasting The Day Playing Video Games
I like wasting a little time here and there playing Grand Theft Auto like everybody else, but after 48 hours, when you still haven’t got up to change the bed pan, I think it’s time that you checked yourself in.
Driving Like An Idiot
I’ll admit it; I idolize James Dean and have this sick romanticized idea of going out in flames, barrelling down a country road in 69 Stingray or on a chopped FXR… but it’s just that, a twisted thought. I’m not actually that a$$hole on the crotch rocket weaving in and out of traffic, going a buck 80 down the DVP. Easy on the volume of the tunes too, no need to have it on 11 while waiting for the light to turn green… nobody else wants to hear what you’re listening to, they have their own tunes. You’re also too old now for tailgating and starting a roadside beef, you just look like an idiot to everyone else stuck in traffic with you. Take it from a guy who nearly died in a car accident, when you come to in that bed and the doc tells you they’re probably going to have to amputate your right leg… Was it really worth it?
Living Paycheck to Paycheck
If you haven’t started saving money yet, now would be the time. Wealthy men are generally wealthy because they invested in something. Time for you to do the same!
Working a Job With No Future
Your job is the thing you spend most of your time doing. It’s also what defines you to a lot of people. If you’re 30 and still haven’t gotten into the field of your dream job or a job with potential for you to rise… maybe it’s time to change some things.
Living Like You’re Still In A Dorm Room
By the time you hit 30, it’s kind of expected that you have developed some sort of style and have acquired a taste… well, for something. When your friends, family or that pretty maiden you brought home from the bar that you’re hoping to bed, walk into your place and see walls covered in poster, empty pizza boxes on the coffee table, beer cans everywhere and your dirty underwear lying on the floor… No one will be staying for long.
Getting New Tattoos
Now before you snap and write some nasty comment towards me… I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with tattoos! I have several and love them, but I made the irrational decision to scar my body at the young dumb age of 17. (My dad was sooooo pissed!!!!) All I’m saying is that if you hadn’t decided to get that sleeve done in your 20s… common sense suggest you shouldn’t now. Small symbolic things that arise in your life, sure… but no tribal, you’ll thank me later for that.
Always Eating Fast Food
Once in a while, sure, treat yourself… but the routine of grabbing that quick burger every day for lunch… time to put it behind you my friend. Your body can’t digest that stuff as well as it once did. Also, there’s something mature about a man who can cook himself, and perhaps his lady friend, a nice healthy meal.
Heavy Smoking and Binge Drinking
This is the one I really need to work on. I smoke 2 packs a day and when I drink, I can sometimes be a little excessive. It’s not that I turn into some belligerent drunk ass… it’s that I’m severely killing my insides. In your 20s, your body has the ability to recover and regenerate from things like this, as you get older, your body doesn’t do that self-healing thing as well… Oh how I long to have lived in the days of Mad Men, but since we all know better now… It doesn’t come off as cool as it once did. Have a smoke here and there, drink socially, there’s nothing wrong with that… But Don Draper today is not as cool as Don Draper in the 60s.
Clueless When it Comes to Politics
Throughout most of my youth, I didn’t care too much about politics. To be honest, I never spoke a word of it. But then I became a man, found a career, took on a mortgage and all that other stuff that comes with being grown up and politics all of a sudden started to really matter to me. When you’re a kid with no real responsibilities, no real bills to pay, it’s easy to feel like these things don’t apply to you. All of a sudden, you grow up and start to get it, you’re actually a part of this society and your voice matters. You’re getting bent over by the government just like everybody else. Maybe it’s just me, but trying to a have a political conversation with someone who is painfully ill informed… gimme a gun, now!
Dressing Like a Slob
The first thing people notice about you, before your job, your personality, before it all… they notice how you’re dressed and make their judgment. You should present yourself to the world in a way that says you care and want to be taken seriously and professionally. This doesn’t have to cost you a ton of time, money or effort, you just need to understand that more is expected of you now than 10 years back.